<p><b>''A beautiful blend of storytelling, science and practical tools. Smith uses her expertise to introduce true boundary setting tools to build (and rebuild) our relationships to others and ourselves.'' Eve Rodsky, <i>New York Times</i> bestselling author of <i>Fair Play</i></b><br><br>When''s the last time you felt as composed as you portray to your boss, family and friends? If there''s a discord between the two, you''re not alone. Humans are master pretenders - we often seem stronger, calmer and more mature than we really are, while the truth is we''re full of doubts and self-criticism that pushes us to borrow reassurance from friends, beliefs from strangers on the internet, or attention that, in the moment, makes us feel successful, but leaves us totally hollow and burnt out.<br><br> Dr. Smith uses examples from her own life and the lives of her therapy patients to explain how we borrow confidence, calmness and beliefs from our relationships and offers solutions and steps for bui